Tuesday, April 28, 2009

latest update as of 28th april

Hi,

My mum has moved to general ward 10D, Bed 110.

As of what I know now, my mum's coma scale is between 4 and 5. My mum is improving but gradually, therefore nothing much can really be said as of now.

I know that there are quite a number of people who read this blog but doesn't leave any comments behind. I was told that many other people would find it easier to email rather than to leave a comment in a blog. So, I'm leaving behind my email address just in case anyone needs to get in touch with the family or me with regards to my mum's condition.

My email address is jo3l_seah@hotmail.com.

Thank you for praying alongside with me.

Friday, April 24, 2009

time to update!

Hi all,
my apologies for taking such an extreme long time for this post to come by but things have been kinda hectic and I've also been quite lazy to a certain extent so my apologies once again.

Here are some of the updates for you guys:

My mum was evacuated back to Singapore on the 10th of April 2009 at approx 4am via a special medical plane catered by the SOS team. The SOS team that was responsible for evacuating my mum back mentioned that during the flight, my mum's condition was stable and she even managed to breathe on her own a little.

That was two weeks ago. Let's fast forward.

Her condition today is such that she has already been moved out of ICU for about 3 days now. Only 5 or so days ago was she able to breathe on her own, even though she's still breathing a tube in her throat (aka Tracheostomy) but doctors will gradually try and get her to breathe on her own, through the nose, gradually. The procedure for this is that they will attempt to close the hole in her throat for 10 mins the first time and see how she reacts to it and if she's able to breathe through her nose for that period of time. Once successful, then after another period of time, maybe hours later, they will try the same thing, with a slightly longer duration this time until she can ultimately breathe on her own. This whole treatment process is expected to take a couple of weeks if successful.

Next up would be the condition of her brain. Recently, doctors have operated on her and implanted this device called the shunt inside her brain. Purpose of the shunt is to actually drain excessive fluids from the brain. Normally, how a normal brain would work is that on a daily basis, our brains will produce about half a litre of brain fluids but because also the fluids is absorbed by the brain, it is like a continual cycle that will just keep going on. In my mum's case, the brain still produces the same amount of brain fluid daily, but the function for the brain to absorb the fluid is not working, thus there will always be excessive fluids and therefore, the shunt that is implanted in her serves as the "drainage system" within her brain. The original shunt did not really work and as of late last night, they operated on her again and re-did the shunt and we were told this morning that there were slight improvements in her but still needs to be observed further in order to confirm.

As for her general condition, its pretty much the same as how she was in HK. No doubt she has made certain improvements along the way, like being able to breathe on her own and not depend on the respirator but generally, her coma scale is still the same, mostly at 4 but at a point of time, back at 3, the deepest state of coma(but that was probably because the shunt wasn't performing its functions properly so we'll wait and see how the shunt performs).

Other then that, we as the family have still been meeting up often, usually to discuss plans for the future, especially in terms of financial needs. So we're still planning for the future and hopefully God will give us the wisdom to make the right decisions.

I promise to update again soon once I have any new news. Take care people!

Sunday, March 29, 2009

[reflections of a son]

i miss my mum, badly.

i go through every single day, every moment, asking God why. and my answer would always be my tears. i wonder why.

my mum's a great woman, a strong woman for one. she never complains about making sacrifices and will always place herself before her sons.

as a son, i'm proud to have her as my mum. i might not know where i can get the courage to face what the future might hold. i don't even have any idea how i can see myself through this period.

everyday i wake up and realize that this, this very thing that is happening.

i still remember that very thursday when i took half day off, just so i could come back to see her off, yet she would say that it'd be too troublesome for me and her last words to me would be, "I understand your intentions and its very much appreciated but you don't need to see me off." Never knew that I'd not see her fly back.

I need God to tell me that He's near in the midst of all these that's happening. Honestly, its very hard to see God having a bigger plan for me but i know that faith is required.

I thank my youths who have been praying, my church friends who's been so supportive, church leaders that are always making sure i'm alright. as of now, i'm not alright. but i will be. i have to be.


She - Elvis Costello

ELVIS COSTELLO - SHE
She may be the face I can't forget
The trace of pleasure or regret
Maybe my treasure or the prize I have to pay
She may be the song that summer sings
Maybe the children autumn brings
Maybe a hundred different things
Within the measure of a day

She may be the beauty or the beast
Maybe the famine or the feast
May turn each day into a Heaven or a Hell
She may be the mirror of my dreams
A smile reflected in a stream
She may not be what she may seem
Inside her shell....

She, who always seems so happy in a crowd
Whose eyes can be so private and so proud
No one's allowed to see them when they cry
She maybe the love that cannot hope to last
May come to leap from shadows in the past
That I remember 'till the day I die

She maybe the reason I survive
The why and wherefore kind of life
The one I care for through the rough and ready years

Me, I'll take the laughter and your tears
And make them all my souvenirs
And when she goes I've got to be
The meaning of my life is
She....She
Oh, she....

Latest updates @ 2903

Hi all!

terribly sorry for taking this long to update. I'm sad to say but I do not really have any latest updates on my mum's condition. This is mainly because I am already back in SG and can only get updates from my relatives back in HK.

As far as I know, the medical team did an Angiogram on my mum, basically they will just puncture the right side of her body and send a tube in and at the end of the tube is a camera that will "swim" its way up to the brain area and conduct an investigation to see what's her status now.

As of what I heard from it, the investigation went well, but I have no idea what the details are.

So these are the updates as of now. As from our family's side, still we are trying to manage ourselves. Me and my brother are still learning to manage our household. There is also a roster out for who needs to be in HK and when for our family (including my relatives as well).

So this is all I have, for now. Will update as and when I can cos I'd be in camp. Thanks for all your continual prayers!

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

TODAY @ 24 March 2009

Today would be the day that has to be remembered because its the first time since having been here and visiting her every single day that there is a significant improvement!

So basically, what happened is that the doctors here have put her on a smaller dosage of sedative drugs already and considering the fact that nothing has been going wrong for the past one day or so, its definitely a good sign.

Also, every single day and every single hour, the nurses would have to perform this "coma check" on my mum. It is basically a series of mini tests to check how deep in coma is the patient in and the result is on a scale from 3 to 15, with 3 being in the deepest state of coma. So, ever since I've got here, her result has always been 3. Until today. From what we heard from the nurses, her coma check result today is 5! Meaning that she's now more or less able to react if we pinch her hard enough of something like that.

The final thanksgiving is that we believe now that she is definitely able to hear us. Now, we would notice that she would sometimes move her right leg or maybe her right arm if she wants to react. One of my aunt even felt a little squeeze when she was holding my mum's left hand!

I guess I could say that we're all definitely very glad to see this improvement in her! Now I can say that all the running to and fro from the hospital has been worth it. Its definitely a huge sigh of relief for us. Hopefully, the next entry would be filled with way more better things ya!

Sunday, March 22, 2009

Latest Update as at 2203

Sorry for not being able to update earlier. It's a hassle to look for computers to use around here when you personally do not have one.

In any case, here are some of the latest happenings from HK.

As of this week, the amount of sedative drug used by the doctors should be lesser so that the body is able to function by its own without the use of the drug (reminder, the use of the drug is to control the BP so that it doesn't go up too high, resulting in another possible risk of bleeding within the brain) but unfortunately, they were unable to do so.

20 March:
Doctors have already lessen the amount of sedative drug used here. Have to observe how the body can cope from here onwards. Nothing much we can do.

21 March:
In the afternoon at about 1pm, my mum's BP rose to about 110 and usually for us, it would normally be alright but for my mum's condition, the doctor have specific instructions for the nurses to not allow her BP to go beyond 100. The nurses had to put her back on drugs again and when I visited her that night, her BP was around 80+ and the nurse mentioned that it was alright for her BP to remain in the 80 - 100 range.

Her face looked a little more swelled up today and they had finally changed her head bandage. Still, I find it hard to accept that it was my mum on that very bed.

22 March:
When we visited her today, we were told that her condition wasn't getting any better. When I first arrived, the one thing I took note first was always her BP and today, it was in the low 70s, just like before, which occured to me that they had probably put her back on the same amount of sedation as of before. It was later that I was told that she had a fever this afternoon and am still having one now, at 38 degree celsisus and it wasn't a good sign at all. (Having a fever could be a possible sign of her having any sort of infection, which is not going to do her any good if she really has any sort of infection because her body would not be strong enough to fight the infection.)


On my personal thoughts of what have been happening so far:
Today marks the first week that I have been here. It feels as though I've been here for 2 or 3 weeks at least! I'm not really sure if I've come to terms with what has happened in the last one week.

Today, I got a chance to go to a local church here in Hong Kong, called the Island ECC if I'm not wrong. Anyway, it was nice to be in a church over here and being able to be in His Presence in the midst of my situation now. Sat through a very interesting sermon, which really spoke to my heart, and I believe also to the heart of my christian aunt who brought us there and also to another 2 aunts who were with me and even though I know that they are non-believers, I know they have already heard God speak. IF MY 2 AUNTS ARE READING THIS NOW, REMEMBER THAT GOD HAD SENT YOU TO THIS CHURCH, NOT OUT OF COINCEDENCE BUT SO THAT YOU CAN KNOW THAT HE IS REAL BECAUSE HE HAS SPOKEN TO YOUR HEART!

Alright. The speaker today, Pastor Daniel David, if that is his name, spoke on the topic of Unanswered Prayer. I was pretty much amazed at the way he disected the parable into 5 different parts but it was his last point on his sermon that really stuck a chord with all our hearts.

He was trying to illustrate his point that Faith is a relationship and he shared with us this story about a young couple in the States who was expecting a pair of twins. The wife went into early labour in the midst of their women's retreat and she was rushed to the hospital and it was at the hospital that the doctors told the couple that because she was only 19 months pregnant, if the babies have to be delievered, it would be nearly possible for the babies to survive. The pastor (the same pastor that was speaking to us) arrived at the hospital to pray for the husband and he was praying for the babies to be safe and everything and when the prayer ended, the husband looked up to the pastor and said, "Hey pastor, I know what's going to happen to the babies if they get delievered but I trust God." At the end of that day, one of the babies was delivered but never got to breathe a breath of air outside the womb but God also miracously closed the womb, meaning that there was still another baby in the womb.

One week later, the same lady was rushed to the hospital again. The same whole thing was happening again and the husband was there, anxiously waiting on the fate of his other baby. In the midst of all this, this young husband was still saying the same thing. I trust God. The outcome was the same. The baby died.

The point that the speaker was trying to illustrate was that sometimes, we think of Faith as something that we give to God so that God can give something back to us. But, no. Faith is a relationship. This young man chose to trust God despite his own circumstances because he had faith in God. He loved God for who He is and not what He can give. One of the test of faith is to see how we react to God, no matter what God's doing for us, be it putting us in times of success of in times of trial.

It's going to be hard for me to come to terms with this but God is in control and God has to be in control because that's all that I'm counting on.

Hopefully, there will come a day when my mum will wake up and things will be better, but I also cannot run away from the fact that maybe there won't be that moment if things gets worse but I will still tell myself, that God is in control and because He loves me, I will recognise the fact that everything will work out to the good of those who love Him because He'll never give up on me and so I shouldn't give up on what He has planned for me.

Thank you for all those who have been praying. Let's keep going! You'll never know what God might have in stored for you as well. :)

Friday, March 20, 2009

Updates as at 200309

Hi,

note to all, there have been some errors in my previous entry. Her stroke only took place a couple of days after she landed in Hong Kong so I've already edited the previous entry already.

Here's the latest updates.

Have seen the doctor this morning and what we were told is that they have already lessen the amount of sedation in her body and what we were told was that there wasn't really any improvement in her condition.

Other than that, everything else is pretty much the same. She's still in coma, still in critical danger and we're all tired from this ongoing ordeal.

Met a doctor here who is a singaporean and he's an expert in his field so talking to him this afternoon pretty much enlightens us on the culture of the hospitals here as well as their procedures. One thing that he told us is that usually after a brain surgery, the next 2 or 3 weeks is always a critical period and uncertain period. He says that the best thing that we can do during this period is to get out of the nurses and doctors way and just pray and hope for her condition to improve gradually. And I guess that I'd have to identify with that. I guess sometimes we're trying so so hard, exploring all kinds of possibilities and getting ourselves all tired but we're missing out on the fact that maybe letting time takes its own course is the best that we can do.

I'm reminded that during my poly days, I went for a crusade camp called Metamorphosis(Meta for short) and during one of the mornings, they set up this room called the Silent Room and when you go in, it's a path that tells you why sometimes God keeps silent or what is the signifiance of us being silent even before we come before God. I'm reminded of the song "Still" in this instance, in which the chorus says that:

When the oceans rise and thunders roar
I will soar with you above the storm
Father you are king over the flood
I will be still and know you are God


Anyway, thanks to all who have been supporting us, dropping us with words of encouragements along the way, those who are praying for us in both Singapore and HK. We really appreciate every bit of help that has been avail to us!

Ever since the day I arrived in HK, God has definitely shown Himself faithful by providing us with contacts for places to stay, for favour with the people back in Singapore in terms of my army camp, insurance and many others, for my mum to remain in a stable condition thus far and finally many family and friends that have been with us through this journey. (God even treated me to a cup of coffee and cheesecake this afternoon when I offered to pay for it but the cashier amazingly handed me back the money that I paid together with the receipt!)

Therefore, if it is not too much to ask of you, as you continue to support us, even through your prayers, that you'll continue to lift my mum up to the Lord (in which you can see her picture above so that it might be easier when you pray for her) that she'll be able to reach a stable condition and ultimately recover from this ordeal as soon as possible, for those who are here which include myself and my relatives here to remain strong physically so that we won't fall to any illness of any sort, for all the logistics to be worked out(insurance, my army camp, accomodation etc) so that we won't have to worry every single moment, and also lastly, for God's Spirit to move in our midst as we adapt to a new lifestyle here, that may God be glorified in whatever that happens in HK.

"I believe in a God, who is mighty to save, who will be glorified in the midst of this storm so that people will know that He is Lord of all."